Happy Healthy and Fit

Friday, September 30, 2011

Experience Ecstasy: Happiness is Consciousness


Let your soul stand ajar: always ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.
~ Emily Dickinson

Last night I had dinner with some girlfriends. The food and atmosphere were average. The experience was ecstatic.

"I just want to be Happy," is a common echo that can be heard in response to the question of What do you want? I believe it to be true. Most people just want to be happy. The biggest obstacle to Happiness is a result of old programming. The belief that things lead to Happiness creates an impenetrable Kevlar-like barrier, blocking the believer from ever attaining the blissful consciousness of ecstasy.

Recently, I had dinner with a friend, who was self-proclaimed miserable. It was an interesting comment to make after speaking of $500 massages, private airplanes and his most recent big decision: to buy or not to buy an Aston Martin. I don't share this with judgment, I share this with compassion. For his whole life, he believed these things would make him happy and he is miserable. He is alone and he is not alone.

Many people share the same belief that things will bring happiness.

As George Leonard said, "At the heart of each of us, whatever our imperfections, there exists a silent pulse of imperfect rhythm, which is absolutely individual and unique, and yet which connects us to everything else."

Nice things are wonderful, but chances are if you are excited about a $500 massage you have never experienced the essence of the free massage given by someone you love. The difference is rooted in consciousness.

Just for today, stop chasing people and things, allow your soul to remain ajar. Put away your programming and pay attention to your heart. Commit to making every interaction a real connection.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means elevating to the Consciousness of Happiness removing the barriers that block your soul from what it craves most: Love Connections.


Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Cosmic Celebration Gifts Infinite Possibilities



Decide today to create the Life of your Dreams.

On this day last year, I was trekking Rim 2 Rim, 26 miles across the Grand Canyon with my friend Heidi. I had no idea, I would be setting the tone for the most amazing infinitely abundant year of adventure, travel, love and consciousness expansion ever. Now that I understand the technology of the soul and the power of the cosmos, I realize that I could not have picked a better day to set the tone. Today is that day! Set your tone!

I jumped out of bed this morning feeling a like a little girl on Christmas morning. Instead of running downstairs to find gifts, I turned inside and acknowledged the true spark that lies in each of us allowing for infinite possibilities and ultimate perfection.

Today is Rosh Hashanah. Commonly known as the Jewish New Year, cosmically known as the lunar new year. Today is when the universe provides a clean slate or fertile garden. As I always say, just because you are not aware of what is going on in the Big Picture does not mean you are not subject to it. Today, you can set the tone for the next 365 days. Practice loving kindness, release all hurts and pains of the past. Mind your tongue. Remove your limitations. Transform your selfish nature.

If you think of today only as a Jewish holiday, you block the consciousness of reconnecting with your perfect self. Today is the day that we reconnect to our origin as individuals and to the origin of humankind. We are born anew. Today is the day to find that spark of Light inside and share it with someone else. Inspiring people to share with others is the greatest possible accomplishment.

When we receive wisdom, it is our responsibility to share it with others. By doing this, we are taking action to remove pain and suffering from the world. This is the path to absolute perfection. Seize the day. Take advantage of this opportunity for complete and true transformation. Do not settle for a year a little better than last year. Read and Believe the following quote out loud. "I cannot accept the place that I'm in. I can't be comfortable with the person that I am. Once and for all, I reject my ego and the Desire to Receive for the Self Alone. I must completely change- and I will."

Decide to create the life of your dreams. Choose your own Adventure. Don't wait for Miracles. Create Miracles! Being Happy Healthy and Fit means tuning into what is going on inside of you as well as outside of you. The Universe wants to bless you with Abundance, increase your awareness and Desire to Receive. Happy New Year. Make it the most Amazing one ever!


Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Chase Criticism: Proactively Procure Peace

Criticism is that conversation we try to avoid. It is the catalyst for those sinking feelings that we carry over from childhood. Physical responses to criticism vary. Some may feel a pit in the stomach, tightness in the throat, ripples in the brain, clenching palms or an actual pain in the heart.

The sensation that the body feels is pure ego. The tightness is an opportunity to identify and break through the shell. The beautiful part about criticism is that it is an invitation to grow, change and transform.

Change is constant. If you are not expanding and growing, you are shrinking and dying. This is true on every level: Spiritual, physical, emotional and intellectual. Happiness is a result. Today practice releasing your stubborn nature and need to be right. Even if you are right, let it go.

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. We allow our ego to block our success. We cling to our own opinions even when they are wrong. Like a boiling egg, we become denser and denser as someone tries to convince us otherwise.

Critcism gives you a chance to change your inside world. When you learn to control the rise and fall of emotions, you will know peace. Life situations and circumstances will always change. Ego is that clinging sensation resisting the laws of nature.

Proactively procure peace by chasing criticism. You're reaction will be a great indicator as to your state of bondage or liberation. There is a Sanskrit saying, "Mana eva manushyanam katanam bandha mokshayoho." "As the mind, so the man; bondage or liberation are in your own mind." If you feel bound, you are bound. If you feel liberated, you are liberated. Things outside of you, do not bind or liberate, it is all about your attitude.



Friday, September 23, 2011

Asleep to Complete: Who are you?

There are 4 types of people in this world. Who are you?

1. Asleep - people who act and don't think

2. Analyst - people who think and don't act

3. Empty - people who are constantly active, filling themselves with the wrong thing

4. Complete - people working to change themselves and fill up with Light

Move from Asleep to Complete to today.

People who are asleep are also known as unconscious. They have no awareness of how their actions create reactions. Someone who is asleep does not consider other people or the environment. They are limited to seeking only for themselves.

The Analyst is equipped with the consciousness to notice opportunities to bring more Love and Light into this world, but lack the Courage, Inspiration or Motivation to actualize change.

Empty are those constantly seeking to fill themselves up with the wrong things. This can be excessive material goods, drugs, alcohol, nicotine, sex, TV watching, junk food, chaos, anger or bullying behavior. Empty is a lack of happiness inside that can never be filled from the outside.

Complete is an indication of someone who is working to change themselves and fill up with Light and spread Love. Complete is a result produced by learning to act only consciously or mindfully. Complete is when we stop searching for fulfillment through people and things outside of ourselves. Complete is a unification of mind, body and spirit. Complete is igniting the Light so bright inside of yourself that you magnetically attract the greatest good.

Ask yourself with no judgment, where are you today? Listen for the answer. Read through them again and see which one creates a sensation in your heart, for that is an indication of the Truth. If you know you are restricted by fear chances are you're an Analyst. If you have mounting credit card bills, stuff you never use and are always checking for where the Friday night hot spot is, the latest trends and reading the Robb Report, chances are you are Empty. If you are Complete, you are smiling as you read this, because you are forwarding this message on to someone who needs it. If you feel nothing, that may very well be an indicator that you are Asleep.

Wake up to change today.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means knowing the Power to change and transform lies inside of us. Complete is just a daily decision away.


Inspired by Yehuda Berg and the Daily Tune Up


Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Awaken Appreciation. Attract Abundance.

Focusing on Lack creates a hole that cannot be filled.

My parents used to tell me that if I wanted to have nice things, I needed to take care of the things I had. I never quite understood if this meant that the things I had would stay nice or I would be trusted to get more nice things when I showed a sense of appreciation for what I had already been given.

Today, I understand that it is both. Things may come and go, but awakening Appreciation for what matters does truly attract abundance. Love grows, Happiness grows, Peace grows, Friendship grows, Good health grows, Opportunity grows, Energy grows, Blessings Grow and even Money grows with Appreciation.

As a yoga teacher, I always pause in transition from standing poses to floor poses and suggest that the students close their eyes and fill themselves with a breath of Appreciation for all that they have and all that they don't have. What does this mean?

By nature, the untrained mind is always seeking more. More money, more clothes, more jewelry, more cars, bigger houses, more fame, more attention and more men or women are common denominators that many strive for. Although, it is nice to have nice things, without a deeper sense of appreciation these are destined to leave the seeker empty and unfulfilled.

In the past two weeks, I have awakened an even greater sense of Appreciation for the things that matter. A close friend shared with me that over the weekend, one of his best friends commited suicide leaving behind a $200K job and two small children. Another friend shared that her son's new girlfriend went to drop something off to a wealthy ex-lover and was shot and killed in a murder/suicide. On Monday, I received an email that the boyfriend of one of my Mt. Kilimanjaro climb team members woke up last month with a blood clot and had to have a leg amputated this week. Another young friend is facing a double mastectomy and yet another has been diagnosed with skin cancer.

I don't share these things to be negative, but to create perspective, to awaken appreciation. If you believe that a $200K year job alone will make you happy, peaceful and joyful, think again. Although it is healthy to always want more, focusing on lack creates a hole that cannot be filled. My parents were right. Take great care of what you have in the material world and in the infinite world.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means awakening a great appreciation for every blessing you have and watch how you magnetically attract massive abundance.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Experience Elevation Experience Enlightenment

Only a saint knows a saint. Only a snake knows the leg of another snake.
Tamil proverb

Nature's law is if you want to understand me, you must become me. The alternative is that you will only understand me to your own capacity. You cannot possibly understand how a snake crawls until you become a snake.

This Truth cannot be found in a book. We can study, listen, form opinions and use our imagination, but none of those equal experience. It is by experience that we can begin to elevate the limitations of the mind: turning theory into transcendence.

Yesterday, I was in conversation with a gentleman struggling to elevate his consciousness. He has been trying to work his way through a short book I gave him nine months ago. It was clear that he was not ready for the 10 Step to Success and Inner Peace by Wayne Dyer.

We have had many conversations about love, unconditional love and judging others. He explained that he cannot love those he doesn't like and especially those he hates. My heart smiled. The real secret to success and inner peace is learning to love who you love and to love who you hate. Love knows no limits. Love is an elevation of consciousness.

Transcend your limitations. Become unlimited. If you want to know love, you must become Love. To know enlightenment, become Enlightened.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means knowing that thinking and theory are not enough. You must experience that which you wish to become. Enlightenment.

Monday, September 19, 2011

Push Past Pain to Purify into Perfect

Avoiding Pain is Delaying Happiness

We may not always understand what is going on in the Big Picture, but we are still subject to it. What does this mean?

Last evening, I went to run my new favorite trail. The sign on the gate indicates it now locks at 6:45p. It was 5:38p. I figured if I ran the whole way, I would make it out just in time to not get locked in. Then, I decided I better save the anxiety and park outside the gate. Much to my shock, when I got to the 1.5 mile marker, there was a small group and a park volunteer with his arms out. He referred to himself as he "trail sweeper." Essentially, my run was done.

As, I turned to run back out, I understood that I was subject to the fact that the sunsets significantly earlier than it did last month at this time. In the same way, different times of the year draw attention to different pulls and forces in the universe. Just as the moon affects the tide and the alignment of the planet in relation to the sun creates seasons and affects crops and harvest, we as humans are subject to these same pulls.

I had several conversations around pain this weekend. The difference is, last September, I was experiencing the depths of great pain, this September, I am sharing the wisdom that was given to me. The only way past pain is through it and then you know Perfect.

Based on the lunar calendar, we are in the last two weeks of the year. It is known to be a time of great darkness. If you are feeling this, know that you are not alone. This is a time of great reflection and a time to right any wrongs.

It may be painful to forgive those who have harmed you or reopen wounds and ask forgiveness of those whom you have harmed, but now is the time to set the tone for a Perfect new year. Understand, it is the nature of everyone's mind to seek pleasure, however understand also that it is pain that leads to purification of spirit. In yoga we refer to creating Tapas or internal heat. The more you fire gold, the more it becomes pure. Each time it goes back into the fire, more impurities are removed.

I can only tell you from experience that avoiding pain is delaying Happiness. Push right into and Past your Pain and you will know Perfect. The more you understand what it going outside of you, the more you can understand what is going on inside of you. If you are experiencing any dis-ease at the moment, congratulations, you are in tune with big picture.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means trusting that the source of your pain may seem unique, but that is a detail, push past it, disconnect from your story. Perfect is waiting.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Heart Connections: the Power of BEing PRESENT

What does it mean to BE Present?

Replace your distractions with connections.
It means to show up with your heart whole and complete. It means to identify and release your distractions and to be in spirit, aligned with mind and body. It means understanding emotional intelligence and a willingness to listen.

This concept may seem foreign, but imagine it like this: someone invites you to dinner and they are busy texting or emailing from their phone when you arrive. They are anticipating receiving a message from someone other than you. Chances are the message is not urgent, but rather a distraction, some form of amusement.

On Friday, I was preparing to to teach a hot yoga class when a young woman told me she would have to leave early. Although, we have practiced together for years, it is only recently that we have gotten to know each other. Interestingly, we have quite a few parallels. Then she went on to tell me how she has started a job and gets to practice less often. I told her this job was going to be great for her self confidence and self esteem. My heart smiled when she asked me if I work other than teaching yoga.

My heart smiled because, I realized that for her to ask that question means that she feels I am fully present as a yoga teacher. In reality, I teach yoga once a week and work in some capacity all day everyday. The fact that she felt I was fully present was a huge milestone. This is a result of continuous, conscious effort.

As a society, we seem to be anywhere and everywhere except where we actually are. The problem with this is the disconnect it creates. It has become socially acceptable to show up in body only. How often are you sitting with someone who is constantly checking their phone?

Last week, someone invited me to dinner and when I arrived he was on his iPhone. He asked me a question and I said I would tell him when he was finished. He said it was OK and he was listening. It was not OK with me. I smiled and insisted on waiting. He wanted to know if I was one of 'those people.' I am not exactly sure what that means. Perhaps one of 'those people' is someone who values her time and other people's time enough to show up in spirit.

Practice BEing present today. Try enjoying the company of the people that you are actually with. Put down the distraction of your phone connections and have the courage to have a heart connection. The risk in this power of being present is that you may find you don't share the same vibrational frequency as those you surround yourself with. Trust that if you are one of 'those people' who desire real heart connection, when you have the courage to Be Present, you will attract more of the same.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means having the courage to trade your distractions and tap into heart connections: BE PRESENT!


Saturday, September 17, 2011

Yoga Promotes Global Transformation: Turn Back Bends into Heart Openers

Gradually, one's mastery in concentration extends from the primal atom to the greatest magnitude.
~Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

Yoga was a practice originally designed to spread move love and light around the world. 5000 years ago people knew that through a calm mind and peaceful heart they could tap into higher vibrations to give and receive more love. Back then, they knew that meditation was the most powerful way to change the world, but struggled with the physical body creating a painful distraction.

Yoga poses were designed to open the hips to make sitting for long periods of time more comfortable. They were also designed to energize and awaken the 33 vertebrae in the spine. Most importantly, back bending is what opens up the heart space, igniting the vibration of love.

The yoga practice is designed to connect the mind and body and unify it with spirit. It takes this consciousness to bring it to higher levels and understand things like unconditional love and non-attachment, but the good news is transformation happens with effort.

In the past 3 months, I have really stepped up my own yoga practice and pushed the limits of my beliefs. I no longer do back bends, but instead do heart openers. Instead of thinking about being strong, flexible and balanced, I feel peace, joy and happiness.

When you practice yoga, you will always gain the physical benefits, today bring a deeper desire to your practice. With an open mind and open heart you can transform the consciousness of the world by being a Being of Love and Light.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means elevating your consciousness to turn your yoga practice from a personal experience into a dedication of global transformation.

Friday, September 16, 2011

Wake Up Call! Are you a Talker or a Walker?

The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The next best time is now.
~Chinese Proverb

Do you say what you're going to do and never do it? We have all made proclamations to quit bad habits or create better habits. What is the difference between those who do and those who don't?

It's easy to talk a good game. It is easy to recognize what we don't want to do right after we have done it. It is this reactive nature that we want to overcome. After you yell at a loved one, you declare you will never yell again. After a late night of partying, it is easy to say things like: never again, I'm done drinking. This same is true to overeating and not exercising.

Wake up calls come in many forms. Usually they result from fear like a doctor's visit, a cheating spouse, a DUI, loss of a large client to a competitor or a glance into your bank account. Many things can stir up the awakening that change is necessary to be Happy Healthy and Fit.

The magic happens when you quit talking and get walking. Instead of walking away from what you don't want, begin walking toward what you do want. Instead of moving away from unhappiness, practice moving toward Happiness. Health and Happiness are choices that reside inside of you. Don't waste another day telling someone how you are going to make changes. Recognize that transformation takes time and best time to begin is now. A year from now, you will wish that you had. Learn to cultivate, plant and harvest only the highest and best seeds for yourself.

There is no point in beating yourself up for the results that you have produced, but take a moment and ask yourself- am I talker or a walker? Begin with this simple mantra- I am Happy Healthy and Fit.

Next time someone asks you how you are, humor us both and answer only: " I am Happy Healthy and Fit." In a year from now, you will be just that.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Your Life is Your Mirror: What is yours Reflecting?


Happiness is: Looking in the mirror and liking what we see.
~unknown

Yesterday the question was posed- How do we control how other people treat us?

The answer is simple, it just may not be easy. In eastern philosophy there is an expression: The lake does not move the mountain. You are the mountain, the lake represents your mirror. You can see the reflection in the water. Although, the wind may blow and briefly distort the reflection, the mountain is solid in its belief and is not shifted by what is happening around it.

We must learn to be that mountain. Life will always present challenges and challenging people. When someone is coming from a challenging place, understand that they are experiencing their own struggle: fear, doubt, uncertainty, judgment or lack of confidence.

When we become that mountain, solid in certainty, love and light, we have the ability to shift those around us. The mountain controls the reflection in the lake. If you want to see how you are measuring up, have the courage to look into your lake, your reflection in life. Notice how you are being treated. Do you feel loved, honored, trusted, appreciated and respected everywhere you go?

If the answer is no, look deeper into your core. Do you treat everyone the way that you wish to be treated? Understanding that everyone is at a different mile marker on their way to a happy, peaceful life makes it easier to remain steadfast. If you don't want be shifted by those around you, understand that you must be the more dominate power, the mountain. Learn to come from a place of unconditional love. When you encounter those rippling lakes practice calming them with love.

Give more of what you would like to receive more. Practice today with love and appreciation. I promise the more you give, the more you receive. Put your hand down. Expect nothing in return and simply trust that Your Life is Your Mirror. What is yours reflecting?

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Patterns are Prisons: Break FREE!

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage
~ Anais Nin

By design, patterns are predictable. Patterns make great beginnings and produce predictable results. Patterns ultimately stifle creativity and limit the ecstasy of life.

We've all heard the cliches: Keep doing what you're doing and you will keep getting what you're getting. Or, if you want what you've never had, you must be willing to do what you've never done.
It's true. Take a risk. Breaking your pattern requires spiritual growth, courage and certainty.

If you have ever taken home economics in school, you know that you begin to learn to sew by looking at patterns. You can see the result before you produce it. Then you learn there are lots of patterns available for purchase. You can see what you are going to produce. You can change the material, but the pattern will ultimately look the same. This is until you have the Confidence and Courage to sew outside the lines and Create something entirely new.

Years ago, I had a teacher tell me this was true of relationships. He told me that until I decided to change and grow, I would simply go through life replacing one boyfriend with another, they would wear different hats, but essentially be cut from the same cloth. At the time, it seemed personal and I felt attacked. Today, I understand that it is a pattern. Patterns don't discriminate, they are the illusion of comfortable. People love patterns: dinner at 6p, sitcoms at 8p, the same restaurant, vacation and weekend activities.

The problem with patterns is that overtime, they take over and then 10 years pass. Patterns feel like prisons. Divorce rates soar and impatience takes over. Suddenly, you want to change what you have imprinted in your brain.

Practice breaking your patterns now. Replace comfortable with uncomfortable. Risk saying what you really feel. Have the Courage to say No when you feel No and Yes when you feel Yes. Believe in your ideas and believe in someone else's ideas. Take the class you have always wanted to take, learn to sing, dance or paint. Take responsibility for how others treat you. Have the courage to face your patterns. Identify the roots. Are you afraid to be alone? Afraid to be Happy? Afraid you won't have enough money?

Unlock the imaginary door of your prison cell, Break Free! Being Happy Healthy and Fit means having the Confidence and Courage to design new patterns of certainty, truth and happiness.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Walls Have Ears: Love Thy Neighbor

An Enlightening Journey to Sedona reveals the self we Project and the self we think we can Protect.

For nearly seven years I have shared a connecting wall with my neighbor. People put up walls metaphorically and physically to protect themselves. In the past week, I have learned that walls have ears. Walls create only the illusion of privacy.

When she invited me to Sedona with a group of girlfriends, I thought it would be a nice getaway. I have been trying to make my way there for nearly two years. In our two hour drive, my friend shared her 12-year story of heartbreak and devastation. On the outside, she is successful and has the warmest heart, brightest eyes and biggest smile. As she spoke, I realized that we truly are all the same. We have the self we project and the self we think we can protect.

When I told her that I scheduled a psychic energy massage, it never occurred to me that I would be judged. In fact, she scheduled hers right after mine. We have shared many spiritual things like yoga and Kabbalah, we also shared a seemingly silent battle. It wasn't until we made it to dinner did our dividing wall truly come down.

I wanted to know what she could hear through the wall. When she looked down, I knew that she knew the depths of a dysfunctional relationship. She always had a kind empathetic smile for me.

It is through our own pain and suffering that we can help others past theirs. Just as real walls have ears so do the walls around your heart. The walls we build only create the illusion of protection. When you see someone battling pain and choosing isolation consider that maybe that is just a means of projection built as a means of protection. Learning to love thy neighbor tears down the walls.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means identifying your own walls and seeing them in others. First, we must gently take down our own walls and then we can unify through love. As Plato said, "Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle."


Saturday, September 10, 2011

9.10.11 Harmony Heals Hate

Tomorrow will mark 10 years since the tragedy of 9-11.

The tragedy is that of hate. Hate is the single most destructive force in the universe. Hate destroys people from the inside out. It is that volcano that rumbles inside ready to erupt at anytime.

Hate comes from ignorance. It comes from the illusion of separateness, from the belief that we are unique and special. It also comes from the idea that we have been wronged or that someone has taken something from us.

It is easy to shift into a reactive nature and feel hatred for the wrongdoing of 9-11. The more we fuel hatred, the more we create disharmony. We repeat the patterns of the past. To hate for skin color or beliefs is the real tragedy.

Let us come together on this day before we honor those lost and those families devastated 10 years ago. Let us understand that through Love and Compassion, we can find harmony. Let us create ONE world. Let us stop punishing each other for what we don't understand.

Practice finding Harmony in all of your relationships. Harmony is the antidote for Hate. When we learn to look deeper into the souls of others, we can see that they are only moving out of fear and repeating their patterns.

Instead of feeling anger toward those that do not understand us and our beliefs, let us replace it with acceptance. Some people may come closer and others will fall away. This is Harmony. Practice truly being the change in the world. Be Love. Spread Love.

Since we cannot change the past, let us change the future. Find Harmony in your Heart and bring it to your home. Appreciate the Awakening of 9-11. It showed the world the power of Hate.

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means leadership by example. Harmony Heals Hate. Decide today to change tomorrow.

Monday, September 5, 2011

Shopping Online Shortchanges the Personal Experience

The internet is a wonderful thing.  However, since deciding not to replace my wireless connection over a week ago, I have been seeing the world a whole lot differently.

Instead of sitting behind my computer peering into the lives of others, I have found myself sitting with others and peering into making the world a better and happier place.  Interacting and engaging with others in person is far more powerful and rewarding experience.

Shopping for new trail sneakers today triggered a bit of an awakening.  It's been a year since I purchased my first pair.  Last year, I shopped around and then went home and ordered them online.  It was more convenient and I saved a couple dollars.

Then, I experienced the most amazing year of my life: the lowest of lows and the highest of highs.   I took my sneakers across the Grand Canyon and then five months later, I took them up Mount Kilimanjaro, the highest free standing mountain on the planet.  My trail shoes connected me to my soul and then to new friends around the globe. They took me outside to remote places where there was no internet, only people to engage in real conversation.

Last week I ordered a new pair of the same style online.  I didn't like the color and they didn't fit the same. I sent them back.

Today, I found myself in the running store with a nice young salesman names Jonathan.  He quickly observed my stride and showed me the same sneaker I had just sent back.  I explained that they were a little too small and I didn't like the color.  He patiently brought me out 3 different sneakers and then 3 more in a half size bigger.  As he juggled several customers, he would come back over to check on me.  I found myself standing like a 5 year old with a different sneaker on each foot and a different size in each hand.

It was comical actually.  I was waiting for him to come press down on my toes like my mom used to and tell me which pair fit best.  After going through all six pairs, I realized I was enjoying the personal interaction, not available online.   He agreed that none were quite right, then said hold on, he had an idea.  He began to unlace the first pair and lace them up differently.  He revealed what that extra hole at the top was for and I put them back on.  Now, they held my heel back and fit perfectly.

I thanked Jonathan for his infinite patience and his magical shoelace trick.  He lit up like a Christmas tree.  He knew I was authentically appreciative.  We exchanged Confidence.  Then I had the awakening.  Had I shopped online, I would have always felt like I was settling with a not quite right fit and contributed to a major societal epidemic.  It is easy to say how awful it is that kids these days are socially inept, lacking in confidence, cannot communicate and are stuck behind cell phones and computers suffering from ADD and ADHD.  What about our duplicity in this matter?  Every time we decide to shop online, we deny ourselves and someone else the opportunity to interact and engage as humans.

Ironically, I ended up buying the same exact sneaker I had sent back and learned what the extra hole at the top of sneaker is for.   Although, it may be more convenient to click a button and make packages appear, it is more rewarding to engage and interact with another person.  When I took them out to run a mountain this afternoon, I looked down and my heart burst with joy.  I fell in love with the same sneakers that I earlier rejected and feel like I made a real connection.

Next time you go to purchase something online, challenge yourself to buy it in person.  Giving someone the opportunity to help you gives them the confidence they need to succeed and you might just learn something along the way.


Sunday, September 4, 2011

Dreams or Defeat? Desire Determines Destiny


It is "my" mind that creates my experiences. I am unlimited in my own ability to create the good in my Life.
~Louise L. Hay Affirmation from Power Thought Cards

This morning the catchy jingle from the 80s is ringing in my head. What would you do for a Klondike bar? Would you bark like a dog? Would you dress up like a clown?

For the first time, I understand the real question here is How Big is Your Desire? Followed by the question of how much are you willing to sacrifice or humiliate yourself and ascend ego to get what you desire?

This comes after spending several frustrating hours with a friend last night. Here is someone packed with potential and heart and lacking in confidence and belief. I wanted to pull my hair out and scream. It had nothing to do with him, I saw my old self. It became clear that defeat is a result of lack of desire. I have sat where he was sitting; drowning in a puddle of self doubt and fear, unable to see a way out.

In my moment of drowning, I was blessed with a friend. As the saying goes, I wanted only to be given a fish, but instead I was taught how to fish. In this case, how to increase my desire. When you feel suffocated by your very existence, it is time to increase your desire. It is that desire that fuels passion and guides you fearlessly and powerfully toward your dreams. It is that desire that makes the impossible possible.

If you are feeling frustrated with the life that you created and cannot see a way out, the key is to look IN. Look into your heart and remember your dreams. Believe that dreams come true. You may have to shed some layers of ego to get there, but the alternative is defeat. Life is short, so don't waste another day looking outside of yourself for someone to come save you. Connect to those people who believe in their own dreams, they will guide you to increase your desire.

Practice singing the little jingle and replacing it with What would you do to be Happy Healthy and Fit? Would you increase your desire? Would you release what no longer serves you? Would you make better decisions that lead you in the direction of your dreams?

Being Happy Healthy and Fit means determining your destiny by choosing dreams over defeat. The best way to stay in the destiny of dreams is to be that friend and guiding light helping others see their way out when they believe they are drowning in a puddle. It is as easy as sharing the above affirmation.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Spirit Stone Symbolizes Synthesis





Last month I wrote a blog titled All Laced Up and Ready to Let Go about a lovely lady to whom I taught a private kung fu lesson at the Golden Door spa.

I wrote that I was reluctant to teach her based on what she wanted, but decided to follow my heart. This morning, almost a month later, I returned to teach there again. I noticed a card in my box and a small pouch. I was taken aback by the lovely card and spirit stone. It was a gift from the woman, who restored my confidence as a teacher. She thought I was teaching her, but she was teaching me at the same time.

I share the card with you, not to impress you, but to impress upon you the power we have to make a difference in people's lives. Often times, it is the ones we feel the most resistance toward that we can help most and they can help us to grow and transform.

I love that the card she chose is a deer. Deers represent Love. The Kokopelli symbolizes travel, adventure, abundance and fertility. It was a beautiful surprise and thoughtful gift. It was synthesis.

Let this be a gentle reminder that we have the power to change lives on a spiritual level through loving kindness. When someone has taken the time to change your perspective on life and given you a renewed sense of purpose and clarity, take the time to acknowledge them. Cards are a beautiful way to express heartfelt gratitude. They fulfill the giver and the receiver.